Thursday, January 8, 2009

How to love people and not backbite about them:



1. Everyone wants to be happy and avoid pain; they want to maximize pleasure and minimize pain. They have learned behavior patterns to accomplish these goals.

2. Everyone had a different upbringing and they developed different coping mechanisms in order to fulfill their needs for security and material and emotional happiness. Try to understand how their behavior is just a result of these conditioned responses to life, and they are unaware that what they are doing is causing you pain.

3. Imagine if this person said those things about you—how would it make you feel?

4. Imagine if that person heard what you are saying about him—how would it make him feel?

5. If you can get in touch with God’s love—His love for all of humanity--then you can cast a ray of His love from your heart to that person. God created everyone and His love surrounds all—so we must love all from God’s love.

6. All people were once small, helpless babies. Imagine that person as a small, helpless baby, perhaps as he was all those years ago. All adults are still like that baby, with the same needs for security, comfort, and love.

7. Imagine that person in a terrible car accident. You pass by on the street and see this person hanging out of his car, injured, crying for help.

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